Gavriel Lipkind - Bach Cello Suite No. 1, Prelude

This sad, sad song is from the movie, Beginners. Loved it because I could watch it over what turned into four weeks and it never really lost meaning. Mom, you'd love it.

I love the quote from the Velveteen Rabbit used as a metaphor to explain coming out...it really did make me cry.

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

Quote courtesy of this site.

"It doesn't happen all at once...You become."

I feel this way about so many things. I had a conversation last night with Jamie about moving on (or trying to and not being able to) and how that sometimes feels awful. Eventually though, you move on. From everything. And you become.