Happiness

"Happiness can be synthesized."

How happy are we? Are we happy because we got what we wanted...


Image courtesy of This 'n That.

or because we're happy with the things we do have?


Have a peek at this TED Talks and see what you think...






I'm not sure. I've been grappling with this notion for a few weeks now. Friends of mine here in England, who I celebrated birthday wishes with last night, brought up the rather lofty conversation and we started in on it. I'm curious about an answer for myself: am I happier because I got what I wanted or because I'm satisfied with what I do have? Is being satisfied akin to being happy? Is that enough?

Perhaps getting what we want is a bit rudimentary. Perhaps working for what we have is what elevates us from being satisfied to being happy.

I do believe that there is little in the world like the joy that comes from working really hard and relishing in one's accomplishments. So maybe, for me, happiness comes from working at it, getting it, and loving it.

Then does it mean I'm not happy if I want to change it as soon as I have it? I mean, I got a second degree so I could be a teacher. It's all well and good, but is it enough? I'm happy with my career choice, but I want every door to be open to me. I want to educate myself further to ensure I have choice when I want the choice. Does that make me unhappy in my decision? Is room to improve considered being unsatisfied with a choice?

It's a bit complex, non? Think of you who have children or are trying to have children. They're the ultimate choice...they are the ultimate joy-bringers (for most). Are we unhappy if we remember a life that used to be lived pre-bebe? Are we unhappy if we, at times, wish for the non-parental life? What if we can't imagine happiness unless we have children? Will we ever be fulfilled, contented, satisfied if the kids don't happen?

It's a lot to think about. I'm not sure about it all. I think happiness comes from an element of working hard. Without the struggle, the tenacity, there would be no fruits of our labour to roll around in. Maybe that's why I am so adamantly opposed to lottery.

Thoughts?

(Note: if the link doesn't work, just Google "synthetic happiness on TED talks")